المشاركة الأصلية كتبت بواسطة ليش لا

Before you read this please keep in mind that even though there's a big possibly you may think I'm too harsh, insensitive or don't understand.. ,but that isn't my intention behind what I have said in reply to you and said straight out what I had to say.. People don't like that when I do that, but I'm not going to lie or go around in circles.. Being too honest in just speaking my mind tends to get me in trouble sometimes, but I don't have a bad intention and I hope you realize that... I usually get misunderstood.. I am not trying to argue or blame you either, but I am talking with you...



it doesn't matter if i'm right or not , because i'm not going to have any options when he kicks me out
Sometimes it's not about whose right or wrong.. It's about trying to make things right and perhaps sacrificing not just seeing who is right and wrong... I would only say that for close family or people other than family who truly deserve to make a sacrifice for..... Unless you trying to fix the situation with him will just make things worse then maybe moving out would be better.. If it makes things, but if kills whats left of your relationship with and you totally go in your separate ways like strangers then no... If it's because you think it's a hopeless case and you've had enough from him as a reason for welcoming being kicked out instead trying to get to some bottom line or agreement.... well forgive me but I will say my true opinion..but in that case I would you might be looking for an easy way out... Some things in life just DO need sooo much effort even after you feel what else can give or what more... How much harder.., but thats life and your relationship with your father is something I feel you should fight for...He is your blood and flesh... ummm you wouldnt be here today if it wasnt for your mother and father... If you had another father there wouldn't be a sultan...

look , the problem started way back "years ago" we simply hate him because he is treating us like he owns us
i'll l you one story as an example
when i was 8 or 7 years old i told my father to buy me a ball to play with , but he didn't answer me
then i told him again but he didn't answer me as well . then i told him please buy me a ball
then he grab an iron stick "pipe" and hit me as hard as he could by that iron stick . and i was 7 years old only
. i raised my hands to protect myself , the first blow hit my right hand . and now i have a permanent scar in my hand
so , now i think you have an idea about what kind of a person he is

Yes I do... Yes what he did isn't acceptable...not all Call me crazy but I will ask you the following... Hasn't your experiences with him made you a different person in any good way?? Let me explain more.... If you had a perfect father or just a father who had nothing to do with and just gave you money.. this is an example ok... Bottom line a father that didn't give such touble and you had a stable or near stable family how would you have turned out?? Our experiences create us whether their bad or good... Some people because they've had an easy life they may mature late or almost never, they don't understand life, they don't know what difficult can truly be, they may lack understanding to how others may feel because they've only been through baby stuff, if they even have a true difficult or near that they may not know how to handle it at all like it's the end of the world when it may not be a true difficult situation,.....,.....etc Shall I go on, I can make the list longer.... Do you get my point.....???? so do you think your experiences haven't served you any good in how it built and made you as the person you are today?? Actually as harsh this MAY sound the more difficult things we live and go through starting from a younger age.. the more capableable we are later in life to survives or deal with things, ....,....etc Some people say if your in your twenties your young and you don't know what life's about or how difficult it can be or how deceiving people can be... Making the comment that only the older you get the wiser and the more you grow.... Not true... You don't grow by how old you are in years... A number how old your in my opinion is meaningless... It means zero... You don't grow necessarily by how many years you've lived since you were born... Its by your experiences... How rich are they.. How much have you seen, experienced, and lived....
The other question is can you not stand your father so much to the point if something big laqadar allah happened to him and he is very sick in hospital for an example would you think good he deserves it... I don't care...

If your to find out that suddenly he is gone laqadar allah something tragic happened and he unexpectedly died... how would you feel? Will you be satisfied about your acting and way of dealing with him today.... What would go on in your mind.... You never know when it's the last time you will see anyone... You should always act like there's no tomorrow!!!! You never know....

. one year ago i decided that i had enough from him then we fought each other and i told him i despises him and i will never speak to him ever again
. and since that day i didn't speak to him . but these days my brother is also ignoring him and this is driving him crazy

In that I don't blame him... How would you feel if you had two sons living under your roof who didn't talk to you... And you since a year ago!!! Always try to put yourself in others peoples place try to imagine how it would be or how they feel or think... For anyone... Put yourself in his place... You probably think he deserve his sons not talking to him or he caused that problem by his own hands... Try to give him a chance... Ignoring someone isn't the solution... He is your father not a stranger who you don't like how he treated you... Ignoring is making no effort and again taking the easy way out... It would much harder the other way wouldn't it??!! Guess what it isn't the solution and it made things worse... Running from difficulties never is the answer... On the contrary... You probably didn't want to struggle anymore had enough and said thats it I'm not talking to him anymore... You can't divorce your parents... Even in marriage you can't just not talk as a solution.... You can't it doesn't resolve things... Ok yes if you say you want space alone for a little I understand, but your saying since a year ago!!!! You exceeded it... You brothers have part in how things have become... It's all him who is responsible all alone...

What would Allah say about this!!! What are parents in religion

Try to give him another chance... I should say this to myself about my parents too actually... Family get chances... Outside family will I usually give them out like candy heh to people who really know me.. meaning not stranger or people I barely know... I always try to search and find so excuse giving chances for free until I seriously got hurt once, but that person she really didn't deserve it and did COST me an experience I will never forget... I still find myself doing that same thing heh... The point is parents and immediate family have what I will call the card of another chance... Being in the position of a Mother, father, sister, and brother is enough... UNLESS they have done something really really really big... I something really so wrong... I mean extremely...

Did you try to think why is he the way he is? Did ever try to think how he became the way he is? He wasn't born the way he is!!!!!

Has he done something huge that soooo wrong to your brother and you.. that like a taboo or something? You said one example!

: To answer your questions
yes my brother is a student and we are still in the house . my mother is upset but she can't do anything because my father never listens to her

Humm... so I wonder how you think or plan to live totally on your own....