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رقم العضوية : 30500  تاريخ التسجيل :  05 2010  أخر زيارة : 21-01-2016 (10:33 AM)  المشاركات : 675 [ + ]  التقييم :  40

لوني المفضل : Cadetblue

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Are you saying that i should be happy about how he treated me and i should thank him too

NO, it's not something to be happy about... I was trying to say that it's not all negative

There is nothing good about your personality and who you are that you've gained that maybe wouldn't be in you if you didn't go through what you've been through...nothing??!!

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it really doesn't matter anymore if something happned to him i will not feel anything . anything at all call me a devil or a demon , but that is the truth

Are you sure? or are you saying that in anger perhaps.....!! I wont call you a demon nor a devil... You can feel however why you want to feel.. I think though that you feel that way because you let the feeling of hate for him to overcome anything else to where that's whats controlling you, because you have a very high feeling of hate/dislike towards.. Hate sometimes can make you blind and make you take actions later you may regret... or may not... Forgive me, but I don't think you would feel nothing if something was to happen to him... Haven't you ever felt 100% sure about something... lets say even 100 million percent sure and then shocked yourself later finding out no it wasn't how you thought.. Has that happened to you?? if yes.. thats what I believe in regards to you saying you wont feel anything

I've felt that way so many countless times about my father too... I know that feeling very well.. Anger, hate, rage, dislike,...ect are the controllers those times I felt it's doesn't matter... Just want him out of my life

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believe me i have tried every possible way to make things better with him , but non of them is working and don't forget that i'm psychologicaly ill because of him so , i realized that the only way for me to get better "psychologicaly" is not speakimg to him and just forget him what eals can i do ? do you want me to keep trying with him until i become compley insane

Yeah well if my parents acted differently towards a lot of things and my father didn't treat me the way he does I probably wouldn't have had even a quarter of my psychological issues either.... Has not speaking to him truly mad things better? Are you under his threat still? You need to try harder... Crazy !!!.. A comment that makes you angry perhaps..., but seriously try harder... You've totally just gave up

About the insane part... Learn skills to help you cope to stay sane like the way you think (CBT) or learning how to truly do relaxation frequently does help... Those are my main things, but there's more... Remember I was complaining about losing my mind so stressed and in a bad condition to where I would forget my house, streets, what I was outside for,.... etc and I wouldn't recall sometimes until after a while... Not fun... Scary..

I'm not kidding.. You both are students it's not wise to get kicked out at the time.. You need to at least come to some sort of compromise... AT LEAST A COMPROMISE... You have to.. Your almost done with university you can move out when you get a job, but not because Total strangers or to where if you ever need to face each other in the future you can't talk act calmly together without a fight...

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i gave him so many chances , but it's all useless

You still can't give up... No matter how impossible the situation seems or painful it is to push yourself to try still, because you CAN'T stand him.. You can't stop.. It's sound out of the question or crazy, but that's the right thing to do.. Baby things at least to get by... It's doesn't have to be that nice father and son relationship...


What I say may very likely sound crazy or like I just don't understand, but I have the same issue.. My father is the person who has hurt me so much again and again from long long ago a selfish insensitive person cold who can just lose control with anger.. My brother is so precious to him though...I guess I'm the child by mistake that he didn't want.. Wait I was if he tried to divorce my mom while she pregnant and have nothing to do with her... ...I can never forgive him NEVER EVER... But I wont allow myself to act like him and treat him the way he treats me... I try not to I seriously... Just because he does wrong things doesn't mean I have the right to act wrong too towards... Are we mature adults or children! I don't want my hate to take over and it has, but I try to stay aware to when I'm doing that.. I want to be better than him.. If one of us doesn't try something or act right than we well lets just kill each other in a fight to death..

It isn't easy..